The Importance of Good Manners

If you want to raise kind and considerate children, you have to teach them to be that way when they’re young.  The best way to teach them is by setting a good example. The best time is as early as possible.

A Sign of Respect

The essence of manners is respect.

When you demonstrate good manners you are showing that you both respect yourself and others.  Always use good manners when interacting with your children and they will learn to respect others.

Please and Thank You

Saying “thank you” is respecting that a person could have chosen not to help you, but did anyway.  “Please” is how you respect another person’s right to refuse your request.

Please, and thank you is how we communicate that we are requesting and not demanding something.  Practice being polite with your children, always say; “please” and “thank you.”  Teach your toddler not only to speak but to speak politely, and it will become an unbreakable habit.


The way you speak to your children teaches them how to speak to others.  If you are curt and demanding, they will learn to speak to others that way as well.

Start by teaching them to listen when you ask them to pick up their toys, and you won’t need to ask twice that they do their homework.

The ability to Listen carefully is important for young children to learn new information and follow directions.  Listening skills will help them succeed in school, and in work when they’re grown.


Well-mannered children are grateful for what they have.  Patriotism is an extension of gratefulness; you’re grateful that you live in a wonderful country.

Teach your child to respect holidays like July 4th and Veteran’s Day, and the reasons why.  Patriotic children believe that Americans have special obligations to each other, and have a strong sense of responsibility.

Table Manners

Table manners are important to learn for a variety of reasons:

  • Health; not using proper manners can spread germs that cause illness
  • They’ll be less likely to offend others during important social situations later in life
  • Eating at the table helps regulate portion size, preventing obesity

Start showing them proper manners as soon as they’re old enough to sit at the table.

Teach your kids good table manners by example.  If you want your children to eat slowly and politely; you’ll have to do so as well.  Do you want them to use a napkin and leave it on the chair when they get up?  You had better do the same.  Be a role model; ask your child to pass you something from the table rather than reaching over for it yourself.  Soon they’ll do the same.

Speaking When Spoken To

Children are naturally self-centered and impatient.  This is most apparent when adults are speaking to each other.

If your child habitually interrupts and intrudes on the conversation – you know how trying it can be.

Teach your child the importance of respecting adult conversation with one simple technique.  Explain to your child that if they need your attention while you’re occupied, they can place a hand on yours, and wait a moment.

This only works if you respect the request by giving your attention as soon as you’re able.  Soon you’ll have a child accustomed to being patient, an important trait to carry through life.


Privacy is needed at times, and it’s important to teach a healthy respect for boundaries at a young age.

Your child has very little personal experience with privacy; through diaper changes, dressing and undressing, toilet training you’ve always been present.  Privacy is an alien concept to a child.

Start by establishing rules, such as; knocking first on a closed door.  If your little one barges in, walk him back out the door and insist he starts over – by knocking first.  Through repetition, he’ll learn the proper way to respect the boundaries of others.

Good Manners Make Life Easier

A well-mannered child is liked and admired by adults.  Good manners can open a wide range of educational and employment opportunities.  Teachers and potential employers will be more willing to go out of their way for a gracious individual than for someone rude or abrupt.



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